Category Relationship

Turnover

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Break-ups aren’t easy. Hell, they’re honestly borderline painful. The idea of having something taken away from you that was once in your possession is a tragic feeling to have. Think about all the common types of reasons people break-up… I can only think of two:

1.) Either a person wasn’t passionate enough about the woman (or man) and carelessly decided to let them go.

2.) there was a person outside the relationship that has been plotting to steal your woman (or man) the entire time you have been together. Trust me, they weren’t just plotting for a couple days. It was THE ENTIRE TIME, don’t be fooled.

Although it’s frowned upon to view the person your with as a possession, for the sense of blogging purposes, continue to follow me with this analogy. Imagine that your lady is a basketball and you’re the point guard that has been handling the rock all game. You’ve been doing a great job protecting the ball and making sure no one has even come close to stealing it out of your hands. All of sudden midway through the game, you get tired. You get so tired that the defense notices and starts to put more pressure on you coming closer and closer to swiping the ball out of your control. As the point guard, your choices are simple: to continue to protect the ball with your life, or succumb to the pressure of the defense and have it taken right out of your possession.

The analogy above is exactly what people don’t realize. Once you stop cherishing what you have, it could easily be taken away from you before you know it. It’s up to you to recognize the value of what you have and secure it before it’s gone. Relationships are just like a turnover in basketball. If your lady *cough cough* the ball is stolen from you, there is still a chance to get back on defense and try to get a stop before the other team scores if your passionate enough about it. However if the passion is not there, that one turnover you committed may have just lost you the game.

Dunk vs. Lay-Up

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In today’s society, relationships have taken a turn for the worse when it comes to what people are looking for in the opposite sex. For this post, I’m speaking specifically to the fellas, but ladies can ponder while reading this as well. To all my brothers, think about it, how many times have you liked someone solely because she had these traits:

  • Pretty
  • Body was CRAZY
  • Popular
  • Had a little money
  • Body was Insanely CRAZY

Excuse my unproven statistic, but probably 97.6% of the male population has been caught in that situation. Those women with those traits are classified as “dunks”. While playing basketball, dunks bring life and energy to the game. It shows off flash and ignites the crowd. But in a relationship, why do you need to excite a crowd? Society has wrapped the minds of most young men and women around flash and good looks so much to the point where people think it’s ‘uncool’ to value personality as a prerequisite for dating. Dunks are cool, but what’s wrong with the simple lay-up? What’s wrong with the girl in class that studies everyday and gets straight A’s? What’s wrong with the girl that would rather chill on a Friday night than go to the club and take 150 pictures that no one really cares about? Simplicity has gone out of style and now people glorify Instagram likes and Snapchat views.

Most men are attracted to dunks, but a graceful lay-up looks just as good. Two points is two points, it all counts the same. At the end of the day, just find someone who fits you and be happy you scored.

(Side note: I’m not saying lay-ups are easy. They’re actually more difficult. People miss lay-ups too, but that’s not the point)AllenIversonreverselayup 458200649_crop_north

Pre-game.

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Before getting involved with someone you are interested in dating, there are always things people do as precautionary matters in order to be successful in their pursuit of victory with said person of interest. Whether this includes texting them how their day was and the person actually responding with an in-depth answer rather than the typical “Good, and yours?” Or taking frequent visits to their social media accounts stalking… Excuse me, checking to see what they post about, what their interests are, etc. Regardless, plenty of thought goes into the game plan of how to get the girl (if you’re a girl, the guy) you want.

Same thing goes for the sport of basketball. Teams scout and game plan beforehand so that when the actual game starts, they can be prepared for what is going to occur. Nothing is worse than going into a game unprepared and then getting steamrolled by your opponent… Let me take that back. Nothing is worse than getting into a relationship without doing the proper research on the person, then you wind up miserable.

Both scenarios go hand in hand. Therefore during pre-game, make sure you know what you are getting into. Because if not, you just might find yourself getting into a LONGGGG game.