I’m going to assume that most of my readers are in their college years and of the 18-24 year old demographic. If not, flash back to that age for a second as you follow along with this post. How many times have you met someone and you just knew they were the one? That feeling where love at first sight struck you so intensely to the point where you were determined to make that person yours at any cost. Then once the relationship finally kicks off, you become so enamored with the person to the point you’re blind to all the other 3-4 billion people of the opposite sex that exist on the planet… Well I’m here to tell you that you made a dumb decision. Well, maybe dumb is a bit harsh, let’s go with an uneducated decision.

People in their college years are still finding out who they are let alone finding out who they want to be with. Quite frankly, I probably am not even qualified to talk about love. I am a 21 year old, single male at Howard University, a school where beautiful and intelligent women grace my presence every single day. I created a blog about love and I most likely haven’t encountered half the experiences I’ll have with women in my lifetime. If anything, this is a lust blog! (just kidding). But on a serious note, I’ve been a witness of many cases where people settle down too early in their life before they even got a chance to learn what they like. In the end, you are cheating yourself from meeting a lot of amazing people.

In order to be great in the sport of basketball, a person must value this one term — practice. It’s essential to perfect your craft in practice so that when you get in the game everything is second nature. Practice is where players learn what moves work for them and what types of shots they like and don’t like. Altogether, it allows people a chance to enhance themselves into an overall better player than they were before. The same concept goes for relationships. Maybe the failed relationships that you had in the past were just you subliminally practicing for the person you will eventually meet and love. When things don’t work out with a person, view that experience as you getting better for the next one. That relationship may have taught you things that you can carry into the next romance that you have in the future. It took me a while to understand this concept, but it’s nothing but the truth. Everybody can’t be Allen Iverson, we all need a little practice to reach our full potential.