“Slow down.”

“This is moving too quickly.”

“I’m not ready.”

Who has ever heard those phrases above while interacting with the opposite sex? If you have, you probably are guilty of exactly what I will talk about in this post. Attempting to understand the pace of how and when to move in a relationship can get very tricky. There are times where a person should take things slow and try to get to know the person they’re interested in on a stronger level. On the other hand, there are also times where you should put your foot on the gas pedal and not be so timid. The key is to find an even balance of the two so that a relationship does not become stale and stagnant.

In basketball, the fast break is one of the more common strategies players utilize within the sport. Fast breaks occur when players try to score in the least amount of time they can. It’s easy, up-tempo, and brings a sense of thrill to the game. Although very exciting, fast breaks aren’t effective if a player is out of control. Being out of control results into missed shots, turnovers, and ultimately losing the game. It’s not always wise to try to score fast because there might be better opportunities to be successful if you relax, run a patient offense, and just take your time.

There has to be an internal clock in a man’s head when the time is right to run the fast break offense with your girl; but, the key is to build a solid foundation with her first. Connect with her on a mental level and develop a mutual comfort that you have with each other. As easy as it is to try to rush things, that could easily backfire on you in a split second. Be smart, be a gentleman, play it cool, and let things happen naturally. Once a man does that, he won’t even have to think about whether or not to go into fast break mode; she probably will initiate it before he does.